You Weren’t (A Medical Story for Autistic Adults)

You weren’t the problem when you were a little kid. You also were not the problem as and adult if you are Autistic or ADHD and happened to be misdiagnosed. Figure it out on your own, learn to make accomodations, and reparent your own inner Autistic Child as an Adult. Adults in your early childhood may have handled you improperly after assessing your personality wrong. If your IQ is over 130 you are on the Autism Scale. A medical story for Autistic Adults includes learning how to overcome things like childhood abuse and neglect. Especially when neglect came in the form of lack of proper academic or social support for a bright kid whose emotional nature tended towards HSP ( Highly Sensitive Personality) — senitive to things like emotions, energy, and to the feelings of others in your social environment. Be sensitive. TAKE ALL THE TIME YOU NEED TO REST OR TO PROCESS SENSORY STIM. Be as non type A as you want; tis not being dramatic to feel or to not go along if and when your body is excited in any moment or saying oh hell no to something someone Neurotypical expects of you to perform. Not masking is only a danger among people who are not your support network. Life is difficult; you were processing. Make amends for any trauma you caused others during times it was too hard to People. Apologize and seek to improve behavior after really listening if you upset another… but don’t apologize for simply being yourself. Autism is a gift when used to better examine the self and to improve performance competing with only yourself to improve you. Toxic Family and clueless neurotypicals might not ever understand why the way they treated you was or is wrong when they make valid criticism of negative or poor performance behavior… but their lack of insight or apology doesn’t mean that one cannot assume total resposibility for behavior. That might mean forgiving people whonare never going to be sorry they hurt or upset you. It may mean forgiving but detaching from those who still do not get it even if you strive to express your needs clearly and to make valid apology for any vexation you may have at some time or another caused for them if you had an Autistic Meltdown related situationally. Your character is not what happens during meltdown. Their character is when they were tearing you down. Remember that the next time you feel sad and like those in your family or childhood school experiences did not understand. We are all who we decide to be. If you know or suspect you are on the Autism Spectrum, try known accomodations to improve your success. And, if you were a female with autism or ADHD… realize the boys had it easier. Expectations of them allowed for truly rebellious nature with praise for being too cool for school. Girls with bright minds and Autistic Nature — especially if intellectually quick and able to show things like social interest in others feelings — were often the target of the worst bullying at home, in school yards, and by Cluster B teachers.