Bickering ends closeness in social relationships if one or both parties finds it to drive a wedge between respect and emotions. While some folks might think comments made while bickering don’t count if insults and slight make sinister way into how to debates, they do. How people speak to and about one another decides a great deal of the tone, tenor, and ambiance of life. Folks raised in an environment listening to parents and other relatives like siblings bicker tend to be far more desensitized to bickering and to it’s logical life quality altering short term and long term consequences, often completely unaware of the vibe they create by choice of word and of phrase. Listening with the intent to understand an original speaker’s perspective and intention communicating before responding to someone with a quarrelsome tone is the most efficient and socially appropriate way to handle quarrels if and when something perks up. All humans get tired and cranky and say dumb stuff. Not all humans make personally biting, cruel, or dehumanizing remarks. Bickering is contentious conversation reflecting a difference of opinion how to do something (typically). It descends into argument when one or both parties makes commentary designed to dehumanize or to harm. For that reason, be mindful. If one or both person makes cruel and abusive commentary to one another expecting a honeymoon cycle following dust ups, that’s their idea of appropriate behavior and romance. If one person fights dirty conversationally, they are considered the Abuser and or Antagonist, as the person they target to harm, demean, ostracize, or insult is always left smaller for having tried interacting. As such, be aware when bickering leaves one party small after being cut down, bickering turned into an unfair fight with a heap of belittling alongside it. Those types of dynamics in personal relationships tend to always be viewed as medically as much or more so than socially damaging. To that end, all forms of bickering are to be avoided and should never include snarky remarks, put downs, insults, threats of violence, harming of another, or comments intended to attack person, personality, or to do intentional damage. The Bickersons might like competing conversationally for fun and for sport, but most healthy people recoil from any behavior or the sort and are deeply apologetic and embarrassed if they themselves participate in the behavior or fall short in controlling emotional behaviors that lead to or led to conversational disasters.