If your family members say they never want to see or speak to you again, it’s quite simple — end the enmeshment. The faster you force yourself to stop considering them when you make personal and or professional life choices, the sooner you give yourself permission to heal. Even if the scars are ugly, the process of figuring out they are not you, healthy boundaries can be established where you let people know you may be flying solo for the rest of your natural born life span based on their or your own behavior choices. If you are HSP like me, the estrangement will feel like unending medical agony as you lose ability to feel any further pro-social emotions. You may find yourself going through the motions of the kind person you were, but doing good deeds will bring PTSD memory flashes that cause pain. If you choose from there to self isolate and to retreat from life entirely, that’s your business. If you choose to throw on you favorite pair of dancing shoes and head out to celebrate being freed from Abusers having daily and in person access to harm you? That’s your business too. But know this… you are never alone. Your past self has your back and your future self is looking greatly forward to getting to know you.
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