Pathological Demand Avoidance Plus Parental Alienation Yields A No Win Situation

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) plus Parental Alienation yields a no-win situation.

When a child of a mature age who is suffering from extreme parental alienation affectations takes up with a protector or caregiver of sorts, one can readily expect never to see the compromise adult child again.

With all in person and electronic communication shut down, the alienated offspring is a proverbial SITTING DUCK.

Whatever the actual Abuser says is all their new friends and mates ever know and as such provide them with the most destructive and damaging advice to give them that’s possible.

Whomever controls phones and emails has complete control over their life and mind psychologically.

I am in Cyberwarfare. I trust zero communication that’s not face to face and in person. Even then, I don’t trust who I am speaking to to be read in accurately or trust capable.

The damage done the Allies and National Security estranging my offspring and weaponizing known Munchausen By Proxy and memory issues in my elderly mother has does nearly inestimable harm to all countries.

Further on a personal and professional level… be mindful!

Feed them only what the Alienators want, the targeted parent marked for extreme ostracization is willfully and intentionally harmed.

Allow a child struggling with co parents who suck to tend relationships in person themselves? All of a sudden things may start to make sense!

That is, to an adult that did not to a minor or to someone willfully being shamed for even knowing their estranged parent.

What’s my advice on how to deal with the issue?

Once you find out an estranged offspring is with anyone PDA… prepare to surrender hope.

Make haste and…

CHANGE YOUR WILL.

If you are in intelligence, tis a relationship game ender to encounter such textbook energy vampires.

They take all they can of your time and attention simply by being rude, placing everyone at risk, and bragging like unruly toddlers they are entitled to do it.

Don’t play games. If you are not a gamer, such people are to be avoided as often as possible as they make everyone miserable and they refuse any charity.

Work around them — as in without their assistance or opinions contributing. If they say they want nothing from you because what you offer isn’t good enough, do not make the mistake I did to buy them nicer objects.

Keep your stuff. Take care of Ancestry.

Count alienated offspring and PDA kids of any age as if they are adults who make their own life choices but when things go not as they planned or hoped, let them handle their deets alone.

Alienated Kids who turn age 21 and run back to drink with an abandoning parent tend to end up a mess by the time the are thirty something.

By forty, they are in need of housing assistance typically. If you live um and don’t want them to suffer due to lack of finances, cover your ass ass well as their assets.

I, for instance, leave lifetime estate for my husband and once he’s deceased if before me. The rest of my property gets donated to local volunteer firehouses nearby where I own, art goes to or stays in museums where it already is, and global AI Biocomputers go down. NASA collapses, Iran goes dark, and the UK taken by China breaks everyone’s DNA and cyber heart. But directions are left on certain lots my son can stay on as caretaker should he come back around. and the girl with PDA who he is with now has one lot instead of six for herself to share for life with her own five children she lost custody of or gave up for adoption.

Disrupting his career in intelligence while seeking to gamble on Freemasonry outcomes was the goal of the group who estranged us. By taking away email and text and face to face communication, one person took down the United States government and left the world in a way that is incredibly dangerous…

all to avoid a one hour long “what’s in the will” and your mom is an intelligence asset conversation.

But that’s the goal of alienating an agent who is a loving parent… unable to discuss their actual work or why a child or person not cleared to be read in on what’s happening.

For an abuser, tis the ultimate SCORE OF POINTS towards their Narcissistic Injury driven Vendetta Agendas.

Your adult child and his mate will perceive anything nice you try to do for them as an attack. Or worse they will accuse you of being controlling even if you proffer them exactly EXACTLY exactly what they ask for in private and or in public.

Any kindness you proffer or helpful data will be met with abject rage.

Logic and basic human decency will not be applied by them if your name is even mentioned.

No discussions whatsoever will be allowed between you and your child.

If your child or their mate get wind you aren’t deceased they will rage and utterly strive to destroy you, your name, and to humiliate you in any way they can dream up they think will be the most offensive things to do or say.

Then they will wait.

They wait to see if you notice.

They wait to claim they were in need and to pretend you abandoned them or claim you didn’t care.

They will do things like accuse you of stealing their money if you refuse to give up your own.

And heaven forbid you ever strive to recollect on what you through was an in good faith loan. Whether an oral contract or written document won’t matter if the PAD partner becomes “The Parental Alienation Enforcer”.

Most kids with PAD or Schizoid Affectation adults tend to pair up.

The more obnoxious they are and don’t get a response, the more likely they are to pretend they are unloved.

The more they cry wolf pretending parents neglect their needs fiscally, socially, and or emotionally, the more likely it is a parent like myself or step parent like my current life partner are to say to hell with it and to give up on trying to even know the couple.

Sarasota County DR 1996 000759 NC — perfect example.

No benefit comes from being mistreated.

Not for the person offering kindness or for the selfish prick striving to avoid letting a parent help feed her and his family if and when times are tough and they require a bit of appropriate assistance.

How can I be so cold one may ask towards my own offspring?

He lied to me and about me. He stole from me then sold my identity.

I am in the intelligence profession.

What I do or do not do with my time or did or did not do before he was born is non of his business.

I raised mine with a future in Clandestine Operations. All of my grandparents and my mentors growing up and to this day most of my friends have security clearances.

He has been woefully misinformed claiming I am not.

He doesn’t know and has been told I am a psychiatric nut job.

He claims I am dead to him for refusing to lie to the parents of his first wife about whether or not the minor was at his house and romantically involved with her against their express wishes.

He asked me to lie for her and I wouldn’t.

He did not understand that HER FATHER AND I BOTH REQUIRED HONESTY FROM OUR OFFSPRING AS WE BOTH HAD SECURITY CLEARANCES TO PROTECT.

The PAD mate only has met the Alienating Parent — the career criminal group lawfully restrained from me since the 90s.

That my son misled her to believe I did something to him to harm him or that she would be so stupid as to not check court filings leaves me as an Intelligence Asset knowing those two numbskulls are their own liability.

I have an obligation to my work. Death Threats made against he and my mother and against my present partner’s family may still prevent me from seeking to have a relationship with ANY OF THEM…

but for the record…

People who meddle in affairs of alienated families and who refuse social support that comes with no strings and clear offers are incredibly short sighted.

I made the mistake of marrying four different men who were estranged from their mothers. I encouraged all to get back in touch and to be good sons.

What I got for it was blamed for the estrangement.

I don’t blame their mother’s for feeling triangulated with me by their adult child.

Mother in law one caused my first divorce when she told him to hit me if I wouldn’t stop talking. I heard her say it and I immediately lost all interest in him.

Mother in law two had to be escorted out of Sarasota Memorial Hospital by security after trying to snatch my newborn child out of the hospital nursery. She was married to a now deceased Long Haul Trucker target and person of interest in decades of crime in multiple states. I chose to avoid them like the BLACK PLAGUE.

Mother in law three was a binge drinker who would lock herself in her bedroom and binge drink for weeks at a time. She wouldn’t bathe. She was foul tempered. And my ex was rightfully concerned about her psychiatric state and in not feeling comfortable leaving her with his minor children for babysitting — especially if and when she was “that way”.

Mother in law four won’t stop feeding private data about me to my Stalker. As a result of the person repeatedly contacting her I will never have any form of trust in a relationship with her even if otherwise no particular animosity or issue between us exists. Those two talking ended my family, my husband ‘s in tact relationship with his family, and did indelible damage.

Add a PAD mate blocking low contact comes in the mix? No reason to bother to love or care for my son.

I accept reality I will never see him again based on her demand as well as based on his lack of care, interest in knowing me, or of any concern.

AND YES I AM ANGRY ANY OF THIS REALITY HAS HAPPENED.

One cannot heal from things one us not allowed to discuss. And learning how to have an adult conversation is part of growing up.

Ask appropriate question(s).

Do Forensic Psychology Homework.

Be polite.

If you are a parent be there to answer said questions.

If none are asked…

spend not a moment further of your time in body as a parent with cells in their hearts and DNA time worrying about it.

Someone who loves you with conditions like never see or speak to me again doesn’t actually get to live. Or to love.

Heck, we don’t even get the ability to like — let alone to exist without being forced to pretend that our bloodline is alright.

All we get is to watch living dead offspring from a distance if we even bother remembering they exist or check in on them.

That’s not parenting. It’s a waste of life.

All that is is a biological hostage crisis…

Noting SOMEONE HAS YOUR FLESH AND BLOOD who hopes you are deceased or never see or speak to them again with the goal of maximizing agony for the bio linked individuals and glee for the Triangulator being assisted by the gawking flying monkey.

I say bothering to try to assist or to avoid them is pointless.

Be yourself.

Do and say what you want.

But don’t expect a relationship with an adult child who doesn’t appreciate or respect your basic humanity.

Kids repeat what they are shown — typically from the same sex parent.

My son had a violent and drug addled father prone to serial cheating and having affairs with men. His father carried on a three year affair with my mother in front of him — and they (he) admitted in court they had sex in front of the infant to toddler aged child while he was strapped in a car seat.

The judge awarded me custody.

The bruises on me, damaged bones, and harms he did me terrorizing (including pouring gas all over our front porch and threatening to burn the toddler and I out and strangling me till blackout in front of the toddler we’re not nearly as damaging to him as his bond with GRAMMIE AND DADDY.

Now that my offspring is in his thirties and still is not in therapy he’s developed some challenging social problems and habits.

One is compulsive gaslighting.

The other is mimicking pathological demand Avoidant behavior.

He was formally diagnosed as Reactive Attachment Syndrome by age 4 coupled with Childhood Conduct Disorder.

We had a window from age 13-19 that he seemed to be turning his life around and I was so proud of him. Then he fell to the textbook outcome pattern.

Nowadays, I am proud of him for surviving.

I have to force down and away all the feelings of enormous disgust that he and his girlfriend should never a minute had to physically and or to financially suffer…

But they insist.

A life conning strangers while panhandling pretending no one will help them is her desire.

I bought them property so they had free rent in a state I don’t even visit much more than once or twice a decade to give them space and financial freedom.

He doesn’t even know he has his choice of 11 different properties now in two different states, one set of lots in the mountains on a lake with a beach and the others watching airplanes and skydiving and hot air balloons in the desert a few minutes away from train station, free bus, and the local state college.

By keeping us estranged, she gets nothing but heartache. Her fear I don’t want the pair to date is her insecurity issue to solve.

I told her lot one was hers to use at will whether she or my child are involved or not.

She screwed up.

How?

By failing to account for how much I may like her or to consider the possibility her boyfriend lied to her about his teenage and early twenty something behavior.

SO MY ADVICE IS TO GIVE COMPLETELY UP.

Take Know prisoners? I give no quarter acres and keep my own pre-existing and newly incoming quarters.

Lot one stats hers to use on lifetime lease — as I gave my word.

As far as my feelings about my offspring go?

I keep my pinky swears.

You want me gone? As you wish.

But accept that There’s NO WAY BACK FROM IT.

UNDERGROUND

6 does poorly if 626.

8 required.

Fault on Five Eyes.

Pirate Empress Tarot Key Term Set Doxxed fed APPLE.

I am bio Cook.

Pretty great, huh — all those Halloween objects.

Mrs Clause invoked re Santa NORAD.