Overcome The Loss of A Living Adult Child

Are you the parent or step parent of an adult child you no longer see or speak to — no matter what the reason? If the answer is yes, know that while surface suck is likely to be overwhelming, the deeper you dig the more likely you are to remember and start to feel the person you were before they came along.

Letting a relationship with an adult child go who does things like lie to or about you, who trashes your place, who steals your id, who steals from you at all, who emulates an abusive parent willfully and without apparent remorse, or who really doesn’t actually love or like you is hard but socially appropriate.

If a roommate you met out if a newspaper clipping is not allowed to treat you that way…

Or a mate would never be considered for a dinner companion on the regular…

Let the adult child in question go.

Don’t be there for them to prevent further hurt.

Meanwhile, you know that awesome feeling when you are alone and have the house to yourself for a day or a week when someone is away at work or vacation and you get to pet sit? Don’t let your body look on the loss.

Focus on today I get to:

Eat what I want

Sleep when I want

Watch what I want on TV

listen to music I want

talk on the phone if I want to whomever I want as loud as I want for as long as I want

Focus on today I get to:

Walk around the house nekkid if I want

Drink out of the milk container or the Oatmilk container if I want

have snacks when I want

have whatever meal I choose and whatever time u feel ready

can sleep in or stay up as late as I want

keep my money solely for myself or for use by myself and a love interest

Remember…

They no longer have a right to control or to dictate who you see, who you speak to, where you go, what you do, how you spend money, when you spend money, where you spend money, why you spend money, and your time and money and social affection are no longer theirs to rely on or to simply “take” because they feel entitled.

Worried about who to leave your stuff to after you are dead? Check the laws in the state of area where you reside to see who gets what if a will is not declared. Then keep the following things in mind:

1. If you are dead, chances are you don’t need to pack to make that particular trip.
2. If you are dead to them, don’t expect them to want to have to ever again see you or want to be reminded of you by inheriting cash, stocks, bonds, land investment, homes, cars, home goods, furnishings, art, sentimental objects, automobiles, boats, airplanes, family pets, etcetera.

The closure is they are not here. The closure comes when you remember if they don’t actually love or like you…

They NEVER WERE.

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