Learn how to set clear limits with regard to self control and self management of your behavior in order to avoid making life choices that are not in your favor. Allow pursuit of health and well being to stay central in your mind. Avoid things that are destructive, not simply uncomfortable. Choose to establish healthy boundaries for lifestyle. For example, choose to avoid people who don’t have your best interest at heart. Limit social interaction with anyone who lies to or about you with the intent to con or to do your some form of harm. Avoid alcohol use and things like cigarette smoke in general — unless involved with a group that partakes but is capable of exhibiting pro-social behavior. And make healthy choices with limits about what you put in your body. Avoid gluten, aim for less sugar, limit intake of things like heavy cholesterol laden items or that do not agree with digestion, and just say no to supersizing at McDonalds etcetera unless you plan to make two completely separate and or a shared meal out of something. These are examples of healthy boundaries and clear limits. One Pizza a week is okay, not one a day with one sitting. Gambling a set figure on stock or at a casino and sticking to it is another way to set a clear limit internally. Saying no thank you to someone who proffers you an assist you don’t want is also pro-social behavior regarding setting a limit. Clear Limits with regard to social behavior also include keeping in mind not to burn bridges unnecessarily with others who do not have an interest in you; for example, telling an in-law that calling once a week for a chat is totally fine but schedule a time to talk they can comfortably call rather than letting them ring your phone at seven or eight o’clock in the morning every week on your husband or wife’s only day off. And if an outlaw rings your phone in the middle of the night, it’s okay to let them know NO (you are not comfortable with them calling at all hours of the day and night looking for a romantic companion and or the next party). Ask them if they are okay and set a time to talk the next day if they want. If they call back when you ask, you know that they respect your clear boundary and actually do want or need to talk.