Whether you marry up or marry down, life is likely to be rough for marriage partners and family members related by someone’s romance if the parties come from different financial backgrounds.
The wealthy mate may expect a lifestyle that allows for couples to enjoy spending free time alone or with their kids and family members. They may expect routine travel to be a part of their life. They may prefer to eat out several times or more per week to have the opportunity to make social connections for business and for their mate to always be by their side as their preferred support person. Homes filled with treasure for the eye and for comfort with intend not to hoard but to preserve and or to collect memory trinkets is likely to be their poker tell someone who raised them lived similarly as well.
The less affluent mate may not see the value in such lifestyle choices. Preferring time apart to time together, they may strive to work more rather than less (or easier task related) hours. They may see travel as costly, miserable, and producing extreme duress and seek to avoid it. They may expect everyone in the family to be home for a modest, reasonably plain in taste meal at 6pm Monday through Friday for dinner and weekends spent engaging in recreational activities they esteemed during their childhood. They may live in Poverty Mindset or compete with others for Designer Label status items in their too small closets. Their creativity time is often spend working for others or on improving their own property.
Wealth mindset often thinks of others with intent to grow long term wealth over time with mindful thought out into the process. Poverty Mindset is more of a posture like a Possum assumes while hissing — expecting survival difficulties and not having much space left for socializing once they feel as if there is anyone or anything even gazing casually or on accident in their direction.
Wealthy assume God has shown them favor. Poverty minded folks tend to not notice gifts that are presented.
Marriages that tend to work include frank ongoing conversations throughout life about feelings, needs, emotional intelligence, and clarifying terms. It also requires making sure both parties needs are met and they succeed in mutual goals.
Stop presuming everyone is the same or that your partner should know why something matters or doesn’t. Start by comparing financial experience growing up as well with Forensic Psychology history of any parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, step family, and etcetera to learn more about each other. Then, set goals for lifestyle ops together.
Sunday Dinner home, Saturday night to a show? Friday night out for a bite — Saturday Night Netflix and Chill. Breakfast at home, lunch wherever, dinner depends on finance availability as well as on the mutual parties comfort level.
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